Long Beach Pride!

Tonight 10pm I’m hosting PUMPED Hamburger Marys WEHO

Tomorrow night at Mary’s Weho AGAIN at 10pm, I’m co-starring in Calpernia Addams‘ GODDESS, and 

Sunday night at 7pm, I’ll be giving you 45 minutes of big booty ho songs at the Dance tent at Long Beach Lesbian & Gay Pride, Inc.
Monday 9pm I’ll be singing your face off at LaFemme OC’s newest night of entertainment brought to you by Velvet Lounge!

See you round the way, boo!

Here’s a tribute to my own mama;-)

And here’s a tribute to my inner goddess mama, a photo by my husband Stas Tagios. He brings the focus, I bring the creative chaos, and sometime we trade. Cuz we’z balanced like that.

Love y’all.

I didn’t always identify as a Ho–there’s a wHOle other side of my personality that some of y’all know over at WendyJoSmith.com;-) I’m still getting to know her too! But this HO thing, she is apart of me, but for awhile, it was a tuff pill to swallow.  I didn’t want to claim this part of myself that is DIRTY, NASTY, LOUD, CRAZY, OVER SEXUALIZED, but once I did–I was on a path to freedom.  Most women still are uncomfortable with my act, but there are more and more that come to the fold and are willing to laugh at how stupid it is that we still feel the need to choose: Virgin or Whore, when we are in fact both.  WE are a million shades of grey, and I’ve found its our “dark” parts that balance the light–its called our shadow.  Y’all know I love me some Oprah! Check out this article on Oprah.com, by Debbie Ford my favorite part:

I love that hanging in gay bars and watching drag shows has gone mainstream, and that more and more people are being exposed to this artform.  I’m usually pretty grateful about it, except when it comes to Bachelorette Parties.  I get it, these lil hen parties *can* be great for the business of the gay bar, but for those us that have to perform for you…usually…not so much.
Solution:  Bachelorette Parties PLEASE Learn how to ACT RIGHT

Here’s some rules:

1. First of all, if you have opted for the “free” drag show instead of the ticket to Chippendale’s–show some respect. Dig deep into your compassion bank here. Imagine if I told you that just because someone was getting married or having a birthday in the office– that you were going to be paid HALF of what you usually get to compensate for their celebration. Say what? You wouldn’t like that shit.  We don’t either.   Keep in mind that this is what many of us do for a living. TIP a bitch. This will go a LONG way, I promise. If you’re just gonna stand there awkwardly gawking at our hedonistic ways, or even worse having your own damn party where you couldn’t give 2 shits, let alone ONE, about what’s going on onstage—STAY THE FUCK HOME AND put some RuPaul’s Drag Race on the TV while y’all play with an inflatable penis. Thank you.

2. Oh you getting married? Guess what? The people that are patrons of this bar–can’t get married in most states.  So don’t expect for anyone in this establishment to get on your celebratory band wagon, UNLESS YOU ARE PAYING US TO. It  might be your last night as a slut, but keep in mind that we in the gay bar usually celebrate slutting for life. (Yes! I’m a HO!) I think I speak for all of us when I tell you: We couldn’t give a pinched off, solid log of shit about your lifestyle choice.

3. “White girl wasted,” usually means the PITCH is gonna get high, and you gonna freak out about everyone that comes through the door to join your party.  Please refrain from this shit. It’s fine if you wanna get loud, but PLEASE watch the pitch, bitch.

Take it to a straight bar, or act like a lady and have a daytime sippin party at your Mom’s.

This post was inspired by:

http://www.vice.com/read/an-etiquette-guide-for-straight-people-in-gay-bars

You’re welcome!

xxx,
Ho